Take A Chill Pill

 You as a woman are left wondering, “Are you a feminist or are you traditional?” As a mother you wonder, “Are you doing too little or too much?” As a girl you wonder, “Should you be ambitious or homely or both?

I am sure men undergo the same kind of doubts, with the changing views about relationships.

There are pressures at work, at home, at the gym, at the park! There are activities you want to pack in, but your day just does not seem to squeeze in all that you want to do! You feel life is slipping by and you are falling behind in the race to success. You are afraid that you will not get another chance at doing all those deeply held desires you have. A lifetime seems insufficient.

Withdraw for a moment from all stimuli that bombards you. Your television, your newspaper, your social media accounts. They are all overburdening your senses with persuasive messages that vie with each other to get your attention. This creates Drama in your internal world and you are left wondering where to go and what to do. 

Check the people around you, and see if you can distance yourself a little. There is a high probability that a lot of your issues and success definitions arise out of the daily interactions and competition which happens at the subconscious level and not overtly. What you surround yourself with and talk about frequently, becomes your mental script. Lunch time gossips make you want to swirl in with the latest designer bag or, park hangouts create a craving for longer rounds. Maybe Being a part of a fitness group chat may make you feel that everyone seems to be chic and savvy except you. Being on a food group may make you feel all others can cook up a five-star menu and you are a peasant who can just roll out nothing but rotis which resemble a world map. 

Take a chill pill, as the purpose of the group is to show skills and people do tend to go a little overboard!

Gather your vital dreams and goals and put yourself on a track that would bring you smiles and not frowns. Create a mentally happy picture of that, which you want to get. Break up some achievable sub-goals and celebrate them silently when you do reach them. Is there really any need to advertise every single detail?

Distance is your choice. Take an inventory of what is absolutely necessary and what can go. The ones who are playing too much on your psyche, but not contributing in any way to your life, can be given few days off or let go of forever. Bring in some sunshine back into your life. Focus on the supportive elements of your life and spend more time with them, instead of chasing that which eludes you why not be content with that which is provided to you. 

Develop a new hobby at periodic intervals. Something that is different and non-challenging. Read a children’s comic or watch a kids’ movie just like that. Take up knitting or crocheting or swimming or gardening. It will be your sojourn to rejuvenate. Anything that will put you out of that slumber of restless anxiety. 

Make yourself your best development project and work on it consistently. You came into this world with your beautiful self. You have to maintain yourself and, you will have to exit content with only and only your lovely self. Make the best of it by minimizing the drama

Mentally ground yourself to find the true you and get to your core beliefs and goals. De-clutter all the mediating circumstances which create your conflict. This will bring in your focus which is a much-needed thing for you to cope in the world and find your path where you can march with purpose.

Remember god helps those who helps themselves. 

Love 

Nandini Mithun