Let Us Cheer Them Up

What is feminism, is it playing a victim card?

Is it trampling a man and climbing up both the professional and personal ladders in life.

For me feminism means equality in all the genders without any discrimination. Yes womanhood needed and still needs righteous share of recognition, however have we been fair enough and recognized a man's struggle? 

Like a woman a man too undergoes a series of restrictions and judgements throughout his lifetime. 

As a child, he is expected to play the masculine and outdoor games, he is not supposed to play with tea set and doll houses, because those are girly games. 

From here starts his saga of restrictions. He is made to play the sports to make him fit into the Boys world. 

As he grows parents tell him to study and learn everything and if possible attend all possible Gate, window and door entrance exams, not with the intention of gaining knowledge but to prepare him for the financial success, his entire teenage years is gone in hearing that he needs to work harder to get a job or else his life will be shattered. 

Not many parents sit with their Sons ans ask what do they want to become in life. 

He is made to choose a career that can fetch money as he is assigned the role of the breadwinner for the family. He might be interested in photography or becoming an author, but his parents push him to opt for engineering or medicine, if not at least accountancy. Nobody gives a damn about his interests

After finding a stable job, the family look forward to finding him a suitable bride to marry and showcase to the world that their son is leading a respectable and homely life. Anyway, whether a man marries a girl of his choice or the family’s choice, the roles and responsibilities remain the same. He doesn’t have the luxury to quit his job and pursue his passions. Even though the wife may earn, it is still unacceptable in our society for a man to live off of his wife’s income as he explores and chases his dreams. He is chained to his assigned role as the breadwinner.

Post marriage he acts as a bridge between his mother and wife, both from two different worlds. He is called a Mumma's boy is he supports his mother and henpecked husband if he supports his wife. 

His role as a father is more demanding and exhausting. Yes he doesnt deliver the baby but he is mentally and emotionally stressed during the entire pregnancy. He manages his schedule and changes his personality. 

The entire financial responsibility falls on jis shoulder. 

To top it all, his work demands more and more from his every second, to show the world about his efficiency to get a salary rise and a promotion. 

Being a man he is expected to work late nights and crazy schedules and meet the deliverables. 

Isnt it then, a little unfair to be so harsh towards our wonderful men, who work for the betterment of our society and fulfilling their duties as a son, husband and father. 

Lets cheer up for them aswell.... 

I wholeheartedly dedicate this post to my husband who leads a stressful corporate life and yet manages to fulfill his duties as a doting son, loving husband and a wonderful father. 

Nandini Mithun 

Lets stop being judgemental

 Do you know that child, mother goes to work and maid has raised her, thats why such manners.... Poor child....

Do you know that child's mother, she js a double graduate and has decided to stay back at home and take care of kids, women like these don't think of economy and country.

A working mother has an early-morning alarm, the lunch-box packing, rush to the school-bus, the mad whirl at work followed by the return home, evening snack, playtime, study-time and preparation for the next day. All the while planning ahead, staying calm, hoping nothing untoward pops up such as an emergency at work, the maid taking a few days off, missing keys, a misplaced project, missing the school-bus, a forgotten PTA meeting, an empty refrigerator, unscheduled school tests, surprise guests. The list is endless.

If working moms are running the triathlon, then home-makers are surely running the full Marathon everyday, day after day. They are expected to do all this and more with monotonous regularity. The demands for favourite foods, the project work for school, guests expecting royal treatment, are all a permanent feature of their lives.  Admittedly, they do not have office deadlines, but there are more expectations from them on the home-front and everything needs to be clean and tidy and she must never be tired. 

Let us have respect for the maid-servant who helps run our home as she is a mother who has made the choice to work in order to put her children through school.

Let us respect the teacher, who deals with forty temperamental brats before heading home to pamper her own.

Let’s respect the nurse who puts in a dedicated eight hours assisting doctors with a smile, while ignoring her own aching feet and back.

Let us respect the home-maker mom who has dedicated herself to making sure her family is looked after her personally.

Let us respect the mom who rushes to work every day, and dedicates her time to her kids at home.

Every mother is special and she knows what is best for her own child. She feeds, nurtures, protects, teaches, rewards, reprimands and disciplines her child in an instinctive way no one else can. The rest of us cannot be judgmental about her or her choices. After all, we set the example for fair play and non-judgmental behavior for our children to follow!

We may have OUR own child’s best interests at heart, but that also means that every other mom does – for her own.

My mom is best for me, and so is yours for you. 

Nandini Mithun 

Friendship Day

 Today being the friendship day, i thought why not on write on the same topic.

Am sure we all have our friends at different phases, lucky are those who have their friends right from childhood to grave.

Truth be told, i did not have lot of friends in my school days and it was just one friend, college days we were a crazy bunch, thinking life was a lot of responsibility, uff how wrong were we then.

After marriage, husband's friends wife became friends and we started to hang out and formed a bond, slowly rhis started to change. 

Kids happened and their friends mothers were my friends... 

Importance of friendship has been induced in our mythological stories in characters such as Krishna Kuchela, Krishna Arjuna, Karna Duryodhana. 

All these friendships went to prove one thing that no matter what stand by your friend in thick and thin. 

Friendship can stay for a longer time, if we are ready to do certain things. 

Don’t get disturbed if he/she didn’t greet you on special occasions, please grow up. 

Don’t compare yourself with him /her. You are two different personalities

As you age, include sharing health tips, quitting bad habits if any, savings for children’s education, Retirement plans etc.

Try to boost each other to face the ups & downs in life. Never discourage or feel bad.

The support from friends is a rich asset. Take time to know about your friend's well-being, and provide them a shoulder to cry-on wben needed. Because there will be many to cheer him/her in his celebrations. But you make sure to stand there at the needed time. 

Remember a friend in need is a friend in deed. 

 Nandini Mithun